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1. Lying may be just a simple act of self-preservation disguised as relationship sabotage. Can it be that he is too scared to go the deep end with you that he lies as a sign of panic, unaware of course but honed by habit. Could it be that he has felt the first signs of true love with you, but he has never gone that far in his previous relationships that he is fearful of what it might do to him? If his lies become the cause of the end of the relationship, he has sadly succeeded. He has lost his love but not himself, and I learned that not everyone is brave enough to give himself wholeheartedly to love that he loses his self-awareness. But, as his partner, if you keep on fighting, you may foil his panic plan, and see him for all his fears and love for you. Perhaps, you can both move forward. But then again, will you be willing to lose yourself in the battle? Will you, as his partner, be willing to invest in a fight that you might lose?
2. She lies because you are not the one. You are the “transition man,” “the one she loves for the mean time while she waits for the true one.” It is not that she does not want to tell you the truth. It is just that the truth will definitely disappoint you, to say the least. Ask her, “how do you see us a year from now?” She will avoid the topic by asking “why would you ask something like that?” Or she would just lie, not intentionally to deceive you but she does not know the answer herself because at the back of her mind, she knows that there may be (a big “maybe” but still a possibility) that a better one will come around. Admit it; if you’re with someone but he seems like not the one you would spend the rest of your life, you would lie to him if he asks you “Do you love me?” You wouldn’t want to say “No” because you do love him but just not enough, yet. You do not want to say “Yes” because you would be trapping yourself in case your “true love” does come around. But still, what if he eventually becomes the one, you wouldn’t want to lose him so early. If this is your predicament, it’s too bad. It is really hard to know until she leaves you for the “right one” and by that time, it is too late.
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